Being a gay
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Being a gay
When I was a child back in the 80's, gay people had rough times. They were considered weird or even lunatic, they were being laughed at and ostracised. In many countries same-sex sexual activity was criminalized. Nowadays situation is way better and improving all the time. But I can, or maybe I can't, imagine how hard it has been to be a gay teenager before the era of the internet, there has been very little information available about homosexuality. It has been excruciating to be in the belief that is abnormal and almost forced to change sexual orientation and being a loser if wasn't able to do that. Or feeling need to pretend to be straight.
Things are now better but young gay people may still need information as the homosexuality affects their life in many ways. I'm not an expert in this area but I try to write about some aspects. According to my previous surveys, about half of my readers are straight, one quarter are bisexual and one quarter gay, asexual or uncertain.
There are two main aspects what comes to the sexual attraction towards other people. Attraction to the appearance, outfit and the characteristic behavior of the gender in question. And secondly the attraction to the genitalia of the particular gender and urges of sex with it. A gay person is attracted to both of these aspects, a bisexual in different degrees. As a straight guy I can say that I'm not at all attracted to male characteristics but sometimes I may get aroused by watching erect men and their masturbating (or rather being handjobbed) and ejaculating. As an exhibitionist I might fantasize that I'd like to be the male in the video doing it in front of the big audience. Or I like to watch ejaculations to compare them with mine. And I find it arousing to post my videos for everyone to see, of course I would prefer females as watchers, but most of the watchers are still males (three quarters) and I'm fine with it. In real life I'd prefer to reveal something about my sexuality to females around 20-40 years old, here in the internet I'm happy to do it for all of you as you are seeking for the stuff like mine. A straight male can get aroused of males in some ways but probably won't have real urges of sexual interaction at least not in a recurrent manner. But in some circumstances, like in prison, straight males may enjoy having sex together as there is no option for sex with a female. And then there is pansexuality which means that no difference is made between genders, attraction is felt for a person of any gender. There is a slight difference between bisexuality and pansexuality.
It's hard to come out of the closet, there are many things to feel uncertainty of and many situations to suffer from being judged and criticised. But there is one thing that is also relevant to many gays and their parents. Offspring. There are ways to come up with a solution but many still will end up with frustration. What I know, gay parents have been awesome, even better than straight parents on average. For female gays the situation is easier as basically both are capable of delivering babies. If I was asked, I would be voluntary to donor sperm for a lesbian couple.
For young people who are uncertain of their sexual orientation I suggest to be brave to try different things, watch gay porn, straight porn, be friend to different types of people and have conversations. Learn yourself thoroughly through masturbation and use your imagination, how it would feel to get another male's penis into your rectum or put your own into a one. Or how would it feel to stroke another female's vulva or be touched by her. If you get aroused of a same sex person it doesn't mean you are gay, there must be more comprehensive feelings towards the whole gender. It may be a long road to many to find out the sexual orientation but it's a thing that needs to be done bravely and thoroughly so you won't regret later in the life that you missed something essential as the life is short and unique.
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ReplyDeleteI am still working my sexuality out because I am young and stupid, but I think I'm 99% sure I am straight, I just look at the vagina and vulva and it's a bit yucky to me. But I have sometimes thought they look nice and I like looking at pictures of women, it's just their genitals are not super great for me lol. But penises and men, I like 100%
This is a cool blog btw!! I haven't read everything yet but I like it so far, the ejaculations are really nice for me to look at, it is amazing what the human body can do
A few comments my friend.
ReplyDelete"but sometimes I may get aroused by watching erect men and their masturbating"
I can relate to that sentiment. I go with being bi because I feel very specifically attracted to uncut penises such as ours. The pink shiny head is a beautiful thing that was evidently created by nature so I really like watching uncut penises get hard, pull back their foreskin to expose a solid shiny pink had and ejaculate as well. I think I would only act on it in real life only in specific situations. Otherwise I've had sex with my old girlfriends and It's not like a switch I can flick on and off, on one day I like looking at uncut penises to ejaculate, other days I like watching women masturbate or giving oral/having sex. If I watch straight porn, I always prefer to have the penis in the shot to be uncut and a bright pink head with a visible frenulum. No matter what, sex is sex, we're all just trying to achieve orgasm(s).
"I like to watch ejaculations to compare them with mine."
For me its primarily this. Your content would be an example.
"here in the internet I'm happy to do it for all of you as you are seeking for the stuff like mine."
I'm glad you're happy, you've found quite a neat corner of the internet to share with the people who enjoy your content. I'm also happy to hear you don't discriminate against any sexual orientation of your viewers and that you include all who wants to see!
"For young people who are uncertain of their sexual orientation I suggest to be brave to try different things, watch gay porn, straight porn, be friend to different types of people and have conversations."
This, absolutely! I 100% agree, this is the course I've taken and I'm very comfortable expressing myself now because I've given myself the chance to truly explore my natural sexual likes and dislikes.
This was a nice read. I'm always open to discussion here on your blog. I feel welcomed by your open-mindedness and understand that some of your followers might feel different and come here to masturbate or just simply enjoy the read such as this post. I appreciate your posts! Keep them up!
I finally came out as gay in my mid-20s but always knew I was attracted to men in a way I wasn't to women. But I gave it the old college try in college. Initially I'd fooled around with a few men (kissing, rubbing) but no oral or anal. But I was still hoping I'd find an attraction sexually to women. So at one point I was on a date and at the end, the girl wanted me to spend the night and had sex. It was fun from a physical point, but there still wasn't an emotional connection with her. We had sex a few more times before she got back together with her old boyfriend, which was just as well. I've also fingered a few women over the years and it was fun but again, just on a physical standpoint. Then about a year later, I had the chance and had sex with a man. There was the connection, it was like a bomb of emotions went off in my head. After that, I never looked back because I knew for certain I was gay, period. I've had gay friends that still occasionally have sex with women, and have a friend that's married to a woman that identifies as straight but likes to also hook up with men. I've had other straight men hit on me, and there was one guy who identified as bi who I fooled around with at a party at my house after his wife had fallen asleep in another room. So my advice to the young audience out there, don't feel you have to make a decision about your sexual orientation by your teens. Learn what you desire and enjoy, and know it can be different with different people. Masturbate, explore your body and what turns you on, and don't be afraid to explore if you feel inclined, as long as it's with the full consent of the other party and you do so safely. In time you will come to the conclusion as to where you are sexually. And BTW, I may be 100% gay but I will enjoy watching straight porn too.
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