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Puberty - sexuality and health

I'm very sorry that I haven't written for a long long time. My workload has increased a lot last year and I haven't been in a mood of writing. I haven't answered to your emails. It's difficult because I don't read my emails very often and when I read there are dozens of them and I don't have time or will to answer them all so I haven't answered at all :(. But I read them all at some point.

There are many topics I could write about but lately I've got lots of wishes from adolescents to write them about puberty. Basically this is a blog to adults, but I know there are lots of adolescents reading this and I think it's a positive thing. There are also lots of parents of adolescents reading this, basically it's their duty to educate their children and give them proper information and to encourage them to enjoy their journey to the adulthood and to find the positive aspects as well. I've touched this topic earlier. Sadly, here's not much new media.

As you may have read earlier, I found my sexuality at age 11. I was playing with my penis often and accidentally found a way to masturbate by gliding my foreskin up and down. The first orgasm was almost a shock, I didn't know if anything was right. It felt awesome but a bit frightening too. But then I did it again and again and again. I didn't get actual ejaculations but some fluid came out from my penis when I got an orgasm. Gradually I ejaculated more and more semen and I think I was 13 years old when I got full ejaculations, and I ejaculated quite a lot.

My first 'ejaculations' at age 11 were not much bigger than
the amount of pre-ejaculatory fluid seen here. 

When a boy (or a girl) reaches the puberty, the hormonal levels are so high that he/she experiences enormous sexual arousals. Earlier it was a sin (and some still thinks so) to masturbate, young persons especially, but I see it an opposite way. It's a unique period in life and it shouldn't be ruined with dictations and rules. There are lots of negative things going on in the puberty, lets enjoy the good things. I think that parents should encourage to masturbate and thus to learn and enjoy the sexuality and to teach that the puberty is a good thing. They should show some masturbation and ejaculation videos so that they'll learn that it's normal and nothing weird. And if they see ejaculations before they get their own ones they'll know what to expect, I wish I had seen. They should know that frequent ejaculations are a good thing, it's good for the prostate gland and greatly decreases the risk of the prostate cancer in the later life, it's the most common cancer in men. And I masturbated and ejaculated a lot and it didn't change me as a person and I did no harm to me. Instead, I've good memories. Nocturnal emissions should be discussed too.

During puberty erections become more common. Frequent unintentional
erections may cause embarrassment. Usually they are not obvious to others
as they are to the boy self. They are natural things that should
not be embarrassed about. These erections are quite obvious.

And after all, it's very important if adolescents can talk with their parents about their sexuality related issues, feelings, masturbation, ejaculation, pubertal changes and so on. Adolescents should know that they are free to masturbate in their own peace (own room, shower, forest etc.) whenever it's suitable. And it's not a catastrophe if someone sees it accidentally. They should know that it's acceptable to masturbate, they are allowed to enjoy it and it's a way better option than to have sex at a young age. And if an age peer friend gives a masturbation or vice versa, it's basically a good thing too at some age but not something that should be encouraged.

The other thing is more about healthy than sexuality. During the puberty the testicles grow a lot and the penis as well. It's important to watch that the puberty proceeds as it should. It's up to the parents how thoroughly and often the situation is checked and when the responsibility is given to the child. When the child is old enough to check himself he should be taught how to perform the testicular self-examination and what to do if everything is not right. Risk of testicular cancer is at its highest at age 15-35. The parents should know if the boy can't get intentional ejaculations before age 15. If the adolescent has seen some ejaculation videos he should be able to know if there's something wrong or not. It is also very important that the foreskin can move freely back and forth over the glans penis, also during erection.

Here are shown some illustration images to give an idea of normal testicular size. Testicles can be slightly of different size and it's normal if they hang evenly. It's important to recognize the epididymides, they are normal structures.

My average-sized testicles. Black: their actual size.
Red: upper limit of normal size. Blue and white:
lower limit of normal size. Green: size before puberty.

It's easy to measure the length of the testicle. 1.5-2.5 inches
(3.8-6.4 cm) is a good length for a postpubertal testicle.

It's good to recognize that the epididymis is a normal structure!

Here is shown how the foreskin should move over the glans penis even if the penis is erect. It's important to see that the glans penis seems healthy, there shouldn't be any red rash or signs of yeast infection.

A healthy glans penis.

Here you see my 42-year-old penis but it

should almost look like 27 years ago :)

In my opinion, parents should show their children (boys and girls) ejaculation videos (they need not be mine) at some point, it's of great help to them. The Orgasms and ejaculations (and periods) are one of the most natural things in the world, everyone will see or experience these things. Here are some samples. In some clips you can see muscle contractions due to orgasms. It should be taught that during an orgasm such contractions can occur.